A couple things first: There are a lot of things I don't know about the timelines and who he met up with from BLM and their rolls. I also find there to be absolutely zero comparison between BLM and neo-Nazi's. We've already gone over that and I don't think we need to further, but that's where I'm coming from and it obviously influences my feelings.
As you have alluded to, I'm anti BLM group. I do not take offense to Obama meeting with them, just like I didn't take offense to Obama meeting with Putin. It's just being diplomatic. It's being a leader. You can sit down and listen to people you disagree with and I think that's a good thing.
Now, I know you believe Obama added fuel to the fire with his addresses in response to young black men being killed by police. I would say that condemning those police officers shouldn't have to be followed up with "but not all cops..." because it's obvious that it's not all cops. But then we also must take into account that the average American is stupid and maybe things really do need to be spelled out so clearly.
Obama got a lot of flack for the "it could have been my son" response to Treyvon Martins killing. But isn't it true? I think it's fair to expect Obama to leave it at their door when he's the president but the guy is black and I don't think he's above feeling pain when he perceives prejudice against his race. Blame him for that I guess, but I wouldn't.
If he could have come out against all the godamn looting and godamn blocking of traffic that would have been great. Against things like "kill all cops" (though I don't know if those were just random members, or leaders. Whether it's some crazy ass official stance on cops or what) That's where he dropped the ball.