twentytwenty Posted May 13, 2021 Posted May 13, 2021 2 minutes ago, Patient #48273 said: Exactly. He wrote: Which is a classic non-apology. And again, that's fine since no apology was necessary. Over textual form you never know the intentions of an apology and have to take it as a sincere one. Especially if you're talking to someone that don't share your first language. "I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings" sounds like a perfectly fine apology to me at least. 1 Quote
Patient #48273 Posted May 13, 2021 Posted May 13, 2021 2 minutes ago, twentytwenty said: Over textual form you never know the intentions of an apology and have to take it as a sincere one. Especially if you're talking to someone that don't share your first language. "I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings" sounds like a perfectly fine apology to me at least. That's fair. Just so you know, many English speakers don't consider it a real apology when the word "if" is included. 1 Quote
twentytwenty Posted May 13, 2021 Posted May 13, 2021 8 minutes ago, Patient #48273 said: That's fair. Just so you know, many English speakers don't consider it a real apology when the word "if" is included. That doesn't make sense though. You have to have an "if" in there because you don't really know if you actually hurt said persons feelings or not. But that's just my head that is being weird I guess haha 1 Quote
twentytwenty Posted May 13, 2021 Posted May 13, 2021 Now when I think about it the better way to say it should be: "If I hurt your feelings, I apologize". Right? 1 Quote
Sun God Posted May 13, 2021 Posted May 13, 2021 16 minutes ago, twentytwenty said: Over textual form you never know the intentions of an apology and have to take it as a sincere one. Especially if you're talking to someone that don't share your first language. "I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings" sounds like a perfectly fine apology to me at least. You’re a great dude and I’m not trying to pick on you at all here. But it’s kind of like a back handed apology if you will. Think about it like this, if you cheated on your significant other…and instead of saying you are sorry for your actions, you only say “I’m sorry if I hurt you.” Does that put a little context on it? Either way, like Laura said there was no apology needed anyways so no sweat. Just trying to help you understand where she’s coming from Quote
Russel Coight Posted May 13, 2021 Posted May 13, 2021 41 minutes ago, twentytwenty said: I apologized? Don't really know what more to do with this? "Fair enough - I apologize" clearly states that I admit that I was wrong and - apologize. Does it not? Honestly the “I apologise if I hurt your feelings” just sounded super condescending since as Laura said no apology was necessary and obviously no feelings were hurt. I see you didn’t mean it like that so my bad and let’s move on. 1 Quote
Patient #48273 Posted May 13, 2021 Posted May 13, 2021 3 minutes ago, twentytwenty said: Now when I think about it the better way to say it should be: "If I hurt your feelings, I apologize". Right? The better way (in English, at least) is to apologize for what you said or did (or what you neglected to say or do). If you're sorry for a particular action or inaction, say that. "Sorry I shit in your bed and didn't clean it up." And if the other person says they were hurt or offended or whatever, you can add that you're sorry that (not if) they were hurt. If no one says they were hurt or offended or whatever, you can leave that part out. 1 Quote
Speedo Posted May 13, 2021 Posted May 13, 2021 2 minutes ago, Patient #48273 said: "Sorry I shit in your bed and didn't clean it up." This is an odd go to example ... personal experience? 1 Quote
twentytwenty Posted May 13, 2021 Posted May 13, 2021 2 minutes ago, Patient #48273 said: The better way (in English, at least) is to apologize for what you said or did (or what you neglected to say or do). If you're sorry for a particular action or inaction, say that. "Sorry I shit in your bed and didn't clean it up." And if the other person says they were hurt or offended or whatever, you can add that you're sorry that (not if) they were hurt. If no one says they were hurt or offended or whatever, you can leave that part out. "Sorry I shit in your bed and didn't clean it up." ? Quote
Speedo Posted May 13, 2021 Posted May 13, 2021 Laura has some secrets ... or should we refer to her more infamous moniker? The Newfoundland Nap Shitter! 1 Quote
Patient #48273 Posted May 13, 2021 Posted May 13, 2021 2 minutes ago, Speedo said: This is an odd go to example ... personal experience? Don't be ridiculous. I always clean it up. 2 Quote
thongrider Posted May 13, 2021 Posted May 13, 2021 6 minutes ago, twentytwenty said: That doesn't make sense though. You have to have an "if" in there because you don't really know if you actually hurt said persons feelings or not. But that's just my head that is being weird I guess haha People's feelings can be hurt by lots of things. It doesn't the person hurting will feel wrong. Apologizing for hurt feelings is not admitting fault. It's basically saying sorry people feel the way they do. Maybe I'm rambling here. 2 Quote
Bucko Posted May 13, 2021 Posted May 13, 2021 Back on topic, this is 90's angels at their greatest. Quote
twentytwenty Posted May 13, 2021 Posted May 13, 2021 2 minutes ago, thongrider said: People's feelings can be hurt by lots of things. It doesn't the person hurting will feel wrong. Apologizing for hurt feelings is not admitting fault. It's basically saying sorry people feel the way they do. Maybe I'm rambling here. Rambling, but in a damn fine way Quote
Sun God Posted May 13, 2021 Posted May 13, 2021 11 minutes ago, thongrider said: People's feelings can be hurt by lots of things. It doesn't the person hurting will feel wrong. Apologizing for hurt feelings is not admitting fault. It's basically saying sorry people feel the way they do. Maybe I'm rambling here. No you are spot on. Quote
Sun God Posted May 13, 2021 Posted May 13, 2021 2 minutes ago, Ry-Bread said: DK was not at James, but I did hear and watch the Euphoria video and it’s dope! We’ll have to take this assessment with a grain of salt coming from the Platinum Rewards Member lol 3 Quote
twentytwenty Posted May 14, 2021 Posted May 14, 2021 1 hour ago, Ry-Bread said: DK was not at James, but I did hear and watch the Euphoria video and it’s dope! I think DK would be cool to talk with. He seems like such a good dude Quote
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